Tuesday, November 19, 2013

How You Can Guide Your Children Find His Or Her First Employment

By George Dodson


John is a senior at the local high school. He will be graduating and shortly after that, he will be looking for a job. That is a tall order these days with the economic climate the way it is. He, along with about 40,000 other graduates from various schools, are competing for the same scarce jobs. That is particularly difficult for kids just getting out of school without any experience in looking for a job.

John's parents are concerned. They realize that the incidents of kids living in the basement of their parent's home, is on the rise. They are wondering what they can do to help John t to find a job.

First, parents need to take it easy with their graduated children. The children are aware that they would not be able to stay with their parents all the time. They also feel the necessity of searching and getting a job. You need to support them when they need it and encourage them in the efforts that they are putting forth. Showing faith in them produces the best results. Even if you do not find expected results soon, you should not try to coerce of compel them.

Most students are not skilled in job hunting. This makes them prematurely give up the effort. Be aware of this and help to keep your child motivated by encouragement. You can also suggest that part time is OK temporarily. Part time jobs will give them the experience which would help them in landing in full time job in due course.

It would be ideal to be his friend at this stage. Listen to what the child wants. Many parents make the mistake of forcing their children to adopt their line of thinking in looking for a job. In fact, you should instead find out what your child feel like doing and encourage them. Show them empathy when the going gets rough. It would be good if you sit together and work out a plan which suits your child.

By all means, don't be too soft. Your child would need some firm encouragement so that he does not give up easily. Be ready to step in when it looks like things are falling apart.

You need to establish good rapport with your unemployed child. It would be good to set some rules come into an understanding with him so that both of you know what to expect. For example, If they need to fill out 5 employment application in order to drive the car for a week.

It would be better if you suppress your temptation to do things for him yourself. This is going to be counter-productive as it would lead to loss of confidence of your child in yourself and vice versa. You should understand that the things are different from what you had done in your own time.

Above suggestions would definitely help you if you want to help your child in his efforts for getting an employment . If you do, both of you will feel much better when that job comes along and trust and confidence will remain.




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